Whether inducing singletons to rant about commercialism or couples to over-indulge on roses and heart-shaped chocolates, the concept of Valentine’s Day can divide rooms like Marmite or Jeremy Clarkson. As lovely as it is to celebrate love, the subject of so many songs, is it worth the stress, money or time?
Many see Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to show their significant other how much they love them, which often ends up a competition between couples as to who is the most romantic or in love. However, opposers wonder if it is ridiculous to reserve one day a year to show your love for one another, wondering if you should be doing that everyday anyway. And besides, what are anniversaries for?
For example, for the last two years Frazer and I have had a picnic of fajitas and my homemade brownies in my bedroom, whilst watching a distinctly unromantic film- first Dodgeball, then 50/50. This is just the sort of nice, quiet evening we enjoy. We’ll probably do something similar this year, although perhaps with curry instead. Of our paired-up friends, it seems that others are going for something similar, with the focus mainly on food and being alone- whether pizza or a home cooked meal, it is the quality time together that counts.
However, this doesn’t mean that anyone opting for anything more extravagant like a special Valentine’s trip or expensive dinner is wrong. Long distance or married couples in particular may take advantage of this excuse to make time for themselves where it may not otherwise be easy to do. My parents have been married for 26 years and are going out for what sounds like a lovely dinner, and my mum has already received 30 beautiful red roses, and it is making sure to do these sorts of things that surely at least partially contribute to longevity and affection in a relationship.
Personally, I feel that everyone should have the right to do something romantic on February 14th, whether because of Valentine’s Day or not, making the most of the lovey-dovey atmosphere that prevails over most public places. Equally, if a couple is busy, prefer less populated cinemas or restaurants or just don’t feel like doing anything, they shouldn’t be judged for not being “couple-y” enough. From what I can tell, most people are on one end of the spectrum, and feel quite vehemently about it, which is fine as long as everyone can just do what they enjoy. After all, every couple is different. Just try not to buy any of the novelty gifts that made us all hate the day for its commercialism in the first place.